Archive for March, 2008

While growing up, all queer people feel a sense of isolation from those around them, whether it be real or simply in their heads. As a result, they are commonly drawn to creating connections with people that are also percieved as being different. However, since queer youth are also attracted to unnecessary drama,  they almost always choose outsider friends who, in hindsight, are emotionally unstable. These friends are frequently self destructive, and cling to anyone willing to deal with them.

Anthropologists have studied and labeled the two normative Types that are most commonly seen befriending queer people:

Brian KrakowTYPE I:

This is the most common form of an emotionlly unstable bestfriend. This form can be easily identified by it’s unfashionable appearance and complete lack of social skills. In addition, Type I friends are frequently very intelligent, or at least percieved that way by others.

Type I’s are willing to befriend queer youth because they are the only people lower down on the social pecking order. Since Type I’s are incapable of making dynamic and interesting life choices of their own, they cling with a death grip to the vivacious queer people around them. As a result, Type I friendship’s quickly become uncomfortably codependent and smothering.

Rayanne Graff TYPE II:

This is the other most commonly observed form of emotionally unstable best friend. Unlike their Type I counterparts, they are are extremely social. They are at every party and as a result are well known, but not exactly “popular”. They can be identified by their outlandish fashionable attire and their addictive personalities.

Type II’s as a rule are always users of excessive drugs and alcohol. In addition, they are almost always the first to introduce queer people to drug use. 

In the beginning, most queer people see them as being rebellious outsiders. They experience their friendship with Type II’s as an exciting adventure. Unfortunately, queer people quickly realize that the “adventure” has morphed into a situation in which they have become emotional and physical caretakers for their sociopath-leaning Type II friends.

It is important to note that while both Types of self destructive best friends are always  straight, they are prone to emotionally abusive bisexual experimentation with the queer people around them. In fact, this is often the first sexual experience of many queer people.

These relationships rarely last longer than a few years due to the high rate at which emotionally unstable friends tend to be shipped off to alternative high schools and never heard from again.



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(above) All queer people own an album by at least one of these performers.

While it is true that queer people appreciate a wide variety of musical stylings, ranging from country to punk to techno to folk music, a reccuring trend emerges in each of these musical/cultural queer subsets.

Queers tend to be overwhelmingly drawn to strong female performers. Even in musical genres largely dominated by men (punk, rock, country), queers will be found in the highest numbers at shows being headlined by women.

This preferential leaning is found in all queer gender identities. After several years of research, anthropologists have linked this trend to another normative pattern in queer culture: rooting for the under dog (upcoming post). Queers feel a high level of shared identity with all other marginalized people, and therefore commonly have an emotional connectivity with those who have been deemed “outsiders” (aka Any women, doing anything creative. Ever).

In addition,  the  not yet proven (though frequently studied) hypothesis that all queer people grow up with an akward/emotionally unstable female best friend (another future post) is speculated to be an early catalyst towards the appreciation of lady made music. These friends almost always introduce queers to their first favorite band ( usually Cat Power ) before the friend’s akwardness transitions into craziness and they get sent to an “alternative school” where they are never heard from again.

If you find yourself in a situation in which you must discuss music with  a queer, it is advisable that you simply nod approvingly of everything they say, and then when it is your turn to speak, say one of the following:

  • “Yoko Ono is the only reason The Beatles got interesting during the second half of their career. Have you heard Plastic Ono Band?  She fucking made Lennon who he was! He owes her everything!”
  • “Did you know that Dolly Parton has sold more records than any other country performer EVER! And she writes her own songs!”
  • “Have you heard of Kaki King/LKN/Leslie Hall/Scream Club/Swallows yet?”


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Fig. A Short-shorts party!Over the several decades in which cultural anthropologists have been studying queers, none has been able to explain to connection between non-normative gender/sexual expression and the strong desire to wear short-shorts.

Though the direct correlation is still being researched, what is known is that queers will find any excuse to where short-shorts.  Occasions in which this apparel choice occurs vary.

Queers are commonly known to be the record holders of the “shortest shorts at the gym” award.  Also, sports of choice for queers are frequently those in which short-shorts are considered acceptable attire (gymnastics, kickball, track&field, golf).

However, the territory in which queers are most likely to be spotted partaking in this particular cultural activity is at any costume party. Several thematic variations exist, but the most common form taken is as any stereotypical type of person from the 70’s including but not limited to: police officer’s, roller-derby girls, biker’s, go-go dancers, hippies, or people with mustaches.

The most highly developed form of this cultural activity, the queer short-shorts party (fig. A),  can be wittnessed only in densely queer geographic areas (i.e. Portland, New Orleans, New York and San Francisco).This particular thematic form of celebration forgoes the umbrella term of “costume” used by non-queers, and simply requires that participants come as themselves, except with an inseam of less than 3″.

If you find yourself invited to one of these parties, it is important to remember that any non-queer sensabilities you may have about appropriate attire must be ignored. If you are unsure of the correct garment to be worn, a fail safe choice is to attend in your underwear (excluding boxershorts) only. This will not only help you to blend in, but it will gain you the respect of your queer fellow celebrators for your overall outlandishness.

Some ogling is to be expected, but relative safety can be maintained by avoiding the dance floor entirely.


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X-Men Gay Subtext

Queer people, like most others, are big appreciators of pop culture. However, it is in their interpretation of film, television shows, and books where they differ from their hetero/gender normative counterparts.

When attempting to find deeper meaning in the cinematic portrayal of a story, queers tend to project their own experiences (frequently those of “otherness” and “coming out”)  onto the experiences and motivations of the characters.

An excellent example of this is a common reading by queers of the “X-Men” movie trilogy as being a story about institutionalized queer oppression in America. The story of the film is seen by queers as a call to arms in the social war for equality.

To most straights however, it is a film about super-powers and blowing stuff up.

If you find yourself enjoying a film with a queer, and all of a sudden they turn to you teary eyed saying “I totally understand how [insert outsider character here] feels…. It’s so hard being different…. I hate my parents!”, it is best to nod in agreement, place your arm around them meaningfully, and pray to god that there is a distraction from the emotional storyline, something like an explosion or mutant fist fight.


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Amy SedarisThough most queer people would have you believe that they are empathetic and politically correct, truthfully they all adore off color jokes that derive there humour at the expense of marginalized peoples. IN FACT, their overriding liberalism is how they justify this love affair with the offensive. They are so liberal, that of course they can clearly spot harmless irony! Any marginalized group will do….

Fags? Why Not!

Retarded People? Go for it!

Black people? Hell yes!

Jews? For sure!

Women? Duh!

It is important to always remember that the acceptablity of this humour exists in direct relation to the general awkwardness of the lady comic that is making the jokes. Use of make-up, prosthetics, and baggy clothes to enhance awkwardness is also acceptable in queer culture.

Don’t forget, it is never ok to talk to a queer person jokingly about this style of humor unless you are either: a.) queer b.)straight but not white c.) a petite spunky jewish girl and/or redhead.

The important thing to keep in mind is that a veil of minority solidarity is being used here. Queers need it in order to pretend that laughing at racist/able-ist/sexist/homophobic/anti-semitic/size-ist/pro-addicition jokes is about solidarity and togetherness instead of just making fun of stereotypes.

Expect this argument to be used if you intend to question a queer person on the appropriatness of their laughter. It is impossible to argue against minority solidarity, so it is advisable that you simply change the subject.


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