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While growing up, all queer people feel a sense of isolation from those around them, whether it be real or simply in their heads. As a result, they are commonly drawn to creating connections with people that are also percieved as being different. However, since queer youth are also attracted to unnecessary drama,  they almost always choose outsider friends who, in hindsight, are emotionally unstable. These friends are frequently self destructive, and cling to anyone willing to deal with them.

Anthropologists have studied and labeled the two normative Types that are most commonly seen befriending queer people:

Brian KrakowTYPE I:

This is the most common form of an emotionlly unstable bestfriend. This form can be easily identified by it’s unfashionable appearance and complete lack of social skills. In addition, Type I friends are frequently very intelligent, or at least percieved that way by others.

Type I’s are willing to befriend queer youth because they are the only people lower down on the social pecking order. Since Type I’s are incapable of making dynamic and interesting life choices of their own, they cling with a death grip to the vivacious queer people around them. As a result, Type I friendship’s quickly become uncomfortably codependent and smothering.

Rayanne Graff TYPE II:

This is the other most commonly observed form of emotionally unstable best friend. Unlike their Type I counterparts, they are are extremely social. They are at every party and as a result are well known, but not exactly “popular”. They can be identified by their outlandish fashionable attire and their addictive personalities.

Type II’s as a rule are always users of excessive drugs and alcohol. In addition, they are almost always the first to introduce queer people to drug use. 

In the beginning, most queer people see them as being rebellious outsiders. They experience their friendship with Type II’s as an exciting adventure. Unfortunately, queer people quickly realize that the “adventure” has morphed into a situation in which they have become emotional and physical caretakers for their sociopath-leaning Type II friends.

It is important to note that while both Types of self destructive best friends are always  straight, they are prone to emotionally abusive bisexual experimentation with the queer people around them. In fact, this is often the first sexual experience of many queer people.

These relationships rarely last longer than a few years due to the high rate at which emotionally unstable friends tend to be shipped off to alternative high schools and never heard from again.



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